Lots of experiences leave us hurt, angry, unsupported, lost, sad, etc. All are emotions we're not super-excited to face in our day-to-day. One thing I see lots of people unwilling to do is cry because they think it makes them seem weak in another person's eyes, or even their own.
There are times when the tears need to flow - these could be tears of sadness, hurt, frustration, grief, or even relief or joy - it doesn't matter. We need to let them flow. Having a good cry can move us to a different space and in doing so actually can save us time and prolonged heartache. We need to stop judging how we feel and allow ourselves to express the sadness, hurt, etc. Why do we resist this so much?
Tears are a sign of strength that we can handle expressing the emotion rather than pushing it down only for it to erupt later on for no good cause. We all know pushing down emotions over extended periods of time is counterproductive.
If this resonates with you, please take the time to feel the seeming unpleasant emotions. While it may be uncomfortable initially, experiencing and expressing the emotion helps us move through the emotion into a better space where we can either find clarity and perspective to deal and heal, or let it go altogether.
Sunday, July 2, 2017
I woke up this morning and started off ok.
Wasn't quite sure what to do for the day.
I was tired from work the week before
Was out late and wanted to sleep some more.
'Twas not in the cards so I got up and ate
And pondered tasks that I could put on my plate.
I realized the feeling of anxiety and fear
Puzzled at why it was showing up here.
I was safe at home no expectations to fill
Yet I could not shake this feeling at will.
I started to distract me with a little this and that
No matter what I did this feeling with me sat.
So I stopped what I was doing and decided to say
We've got to address this so I can get on with my day.
Usually I hide it and smother it with stuff
Cause facing this is perceived as quite tough.
So here I was sitting with this powerful emotion
Wishing there was a quick fix-it-all potion.
I sat and asked "Why are you here?"
The answer came back "What do you fear?"
I said, "A lot quite frankly and honestly so.
But you can't stay here - you have got to go!"
It said it would stay until it was faced
With conversation and love and until I found grace.
So I took a deep breath and tried to stop my mind
From all the negative thoughts of the spiraling kind.
I spoke with this fear for what seemed like a while
And realized how much there was on this pile.
Self doubt self worth and self love came through
Others expectations and some of mine too.
There was a mountain of being enough by my eyes
So I picked out some truths and thru out the lies.
We shined a bright light on all that is me
Who I am now and who I wish to be.
The doing of things only gets us so far
It's what goes on inside of us - its the who we are.
I acknowledged this fear and thanked it too
For it helped me see what I unconsciously do.
We parted with new understanding and learned
That we will meet again until all comes to terms.
After it left I could still feel it linger
Like a bee bite once I've taken out the stinger.
I hadnt noticed how deeply it bore,
Yet now I know there is so so much more
To these feelings that I seem to keep pushing away -
Until I work with them they are here to stay.
They also offer a great opportunity
To feel freedom of emotions' hold on me.
So glad that I took the time to hear
What was actually hiding beneath the fear.
I look forward to our next meeting whenever it shows
And wont allow it to take me to unlikely lows.
I suppose we will become seemingly good friends -
Friends who help each other lovingly transcend.